4. Communicating effectively with your relative, problem solving and setting limits

Key messages: Boundaries and limits

Why have boundaries?

Boundaries protect you and others by:

    preventing resentment and/or burnout
    reducing abuse, exploitation, dominance or control
    overcoming unhelpful and unacceptable patterns of relating
    ensuring you take responsibility only for what is your responsibility
    helping you express your needs
    ensuring you care for yourself physically and emotionally.

How do you protect your boundaries?

    Set limits on the other person’s behaviour with respect to your boundaries.
    Clearly communicate these limits and the consequences if the limits are not respected.
    Observe whether the person is respecting these limits.
    Follow through on the consequences if your limits have not been respected.