4. Communicating effectively with your relative, problem solving and setting limits

Helping versus setting limits

Many families face a dilemma: give in to a loved one’s requests and possibly see their health deteriorate, or set boundaries and risk confrontations and power struggles. Setting firm and consistent definitions of unacceptable behaviour is important for the well-being and safety of everyone in the family. Having clear boundaries can provide a structured, predictable and secure environment for your relative.

Setting limits can be difficult. It may be hard to choose a consequence that you can follow through on when agreements are broken. You need to decide when and how much to support your family member and how to communicate the limits of the support and the expectations you have. This process takes time.