4. Communicating Effectively with your Relative and Setting Limits
Barriers to effective communication: Part 2
You can also contribute to communication problems in the following ways:
Minimization
Not wanting to acknowledge the extent or severity of the problem, perhaps because of fear, shame or stigma.
Walking on eggshells
Fearing that what you say might result in an intense emotional reaction, abuse, risky behaviour and/or the person using substances or relapsing.
Resignation and hopelessness
Resulting from previous unsuccessful experiences in communicating with the person.
Belief in mind-reading
Believing the person with a substance use problem should already know how you are thinking and feeling, and how you would like them to behave.
Emotional vulnerability
Being hungry, tired, physically unwell, mentally unwell or stressed.
Need for skills improvement
Needing more skill and practice in how to listen, validate, express emotions, state requests and say no.
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